I want my daughter to know she can talk to me, but I don’t know how.
It’s interesting now because she’s 3 and she definitely throws tantrums. It’s hard because I can hear her say some things, but when she’s upset she can’t really express herself. It still comes out as cries or screams. It’s hard to just say, ‘Hey, what’s going on?’ and it’s hard for her to say ‘this is what’s happening’. I get frustrated because she’s crying and I want her to stop crying, but I don’t know what to do.
Could that be something that happens later? I worry that, as she gets around teenage years, there will be all these other things creating distance between us. I want to try and hear when she’s upset about things now, so when she gets older she’ll feel comfortable telling me what’s going on.
Something I have to be aware of is that my degree is in psychology. There’s some part of me that says I should be able to figure it out. But it’s one thing if you’re talking to someone about it, and it’s totally different when it’s happening to you. Different feelings come up when you’re experiencing it, as opposed to when you’re helping somebody else through it. I’m trying to figure out how to be a Dad and do it in a healthy way. I hope, that as she gets older, she knows her father will always be there.
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